“If you accept a limiting belief, then it will become a truth for you.”
Breaking limits. That’s what I told myself when this year started. Breaking the limits on my physical capabilities, on my productivity, on how I allow myself to be seen by others.
It’s been 5 months since I started to tell this to myself almost every day. When I feel lazy, I tell myself “Time to break this limit.” When my body is shaking from doing an exercise – break the limit. When I am being unproductive – it’s break time. Hahaha. Kidding aside, reminding myself of what I wanted to do for this year helps me to have focus and motivates me to do more than should -and somehow it works.
People are unique. We have our ways on how to do things, when to do things and how we see ourselves in the future. We may have our own ways of dealing with thing but, we share the same fascination and joy when we see ourselves become better and progress on what we do. But this progress is most of the time being put on hold because of the limitations that we put on ourselves.
“Life has no limitations, except the ones you make.” ―Les Brown
Take a look at your life and assess your limitations. Ask yourself:
Since when did I put limits on myself about this matter?
How many years ago did I come up with what I could do and couldn’t do in my life?
Don’t let your scared 15-year-old-self limits what you can do now. Sometimes, we don’t see these as limitations anymore; we see it as who we are.
Like when you go out with friends at the party and they ask you to dance and you just say, “Oh, I can’t dance.” Of course, you can! You know you can! You might not be very good at it, but when you swing your body that’s already dancing.
Then you assess yourself, you realized that you stop dancing when your PE teacher told you that dancing is not for you. So you start living with this part of you who can’t dance and after years, you realized you haven’t danced anymore.
In the end, you just stay in the corner while your friends are having fun on the dance floor.
Human beings follow through who they believe they are.
Now, if you don’t like your limitations, what are you doing about it? Do you allow it to delay your happiness in doing things that make you happy? Do you sleep through your limitations so much that it has become your insecurities? Do you wait for other people to break their limitations before you act on your dreams? Do you let another day pass by not liking yourself and your choices because of the imaginary limits you put into yourself?
If you are waiting for change to help you go through it – well, you don’t have to do anything. You don’t have to work for change. It comes naturally. But, if you want to have progress, that’s the time you have to evaluate and put the effort in yourself.
Change is automatic, but progress is not. Stop growing your limitations; it’s time to grow from it.
Just like you, I am on this process of choosing progress over minding my limitations, however, I hope you find it helpful what I’m going to share with you.
As you go through these things, bear this in your mind:
Everything about you is great. The problem is you constantly choose to become average.
You have to create a vision that excites you. A vision that pulls you towards motivation.A vision that will help you act today for your future self. You need to show up today, for the person you want to become tomorrow. You don’t put limitations in your future only because you are afraid today.
Have a strong enough reason to back up your vision. Reasons come first. Answers come second. Sometimes, we only see the things we think we are not allowed to do, the mistakes we did today and the problems we face. That’s when it is very important to have a strong reason so when the situation starts to shake, you can hold on to your WHY. If you have enough strong reasons, you will find answers to your problems. Your reasons should be stronger than your limitations.
Make your brain your alliance in achieving your vision. Set your mind. You need to write it down and put it somewhere you can see first thing in the morning to keep the vision in your mind. You gotta feel it and review it every day. You need to have faith. You need to believe that what you see now in the future will happen. Make your limitations uncomfortable that it will decide to leave.
“Do the uncomfortable. Become comfortable with these acts. Prove to yourself that your limiting beliefs die a quick death if you will simply do what you feel uncomfortable doing.” ―Darren Rowse
Raise your standards. You may not always reach your goals, but you always have your standards. Love yourself so much that you won’t allow yourself to settle for what you don’t deserve. You don’t deserve to be limited – especially because of what people thought of you.
“Set the standard! Stop expecting others to show you love, acceptance, commitment, & respect when you don’t even show that to yourself.” –Steve Maraboli
You don’t see results without the rituals. Rituals are habitual actions. Success and failures are not giant events. They are the result of what you do every day. That extra effort you put to make today better than yesterday, to continually grow every day without limitations. To have the habit of choosing progress and to break the limit that stops you from improving yourself. Small progress is still progress.
As the year continues, I can only hope that you will have a better end of this year than how it started.